Typically, when it comes to heterosexual relationships, women tend to talk a lot more about men than the other way around. Of course, guys will tell each other how they met a girl, how cool she is, etc., but many men realize in horror that, it turns out, many women are discussing everything. You heard right, everything, everything. While it may be shocking to some, many of us guys have come to terms with it and until it goes overboard, we try to ignore it. However, given that you have visited this article, you have at least once been curious about what your girlfriend says about you while you are not around.
Keep in mind that this is a generalized list and does not apply to everyone without exception, as there are, of course, exceptions to any rule. So if this is not about you, consider that these are the most common things women discuss. You may be interested in the article 12 secrets that girls will never tell you about.
15. What do you tell them about your ex
We all know that this ultimately happens in any relationship. How many people have you had in the past and why this relationship ended are all very important bits of information when it comes to deciding to date someone. So think before answering these questions, because any potential girlfriend will reflect on everything she knows about you and your previous relationships with her friends.
You don't want her friends to help her find anything suspicious about her exes, so for heaven's sake you don't have to be overly frank. Also, make sure you behave decently towards them, as any reasonable person is likely to conclude that you will speak to them in the same tone if you date and suddenly break up.
14. Where do you take them
It doesn't matter what stage of the relationship you are in, the places where you and your other half go are always important. If you take a potential girl to a diner on their first date, trust me, this will be the first thing that comes out of her mouth when she talks to her friends. However, if you are counting on a serious relationship and start taking it for granted, then the fact that you are not dating, as before, will become a central topic of discussion.
This does not mean that she wants to go to expensive restaurants that require a jacket and tie. You should strive to ensure that both have positive memories of the places you go to. It doesn't matter if you find yourself in the field enjoying the surroundings, or on a trip to a special place for the two of you. What matters is that she feels that you care about her.
13. How Much Effort You Put In
We stopped at the fact that the feeling that a loved one cares about you is important for a reason. If the girl starts to think that you are not ready to put any effort into the relationship, then this is terrible. She will most likely start complaining about it to her friends. After all, how good do you feel when she tries her best to do something for you that she thinks you will enjoy?
Who doesn't like it when girls surprise with tickets to the very movie that they wanted to see, or with something insignificant, like a love SMS. If you don't do the same for them, or are not ready to stop watching TV, playing your game to talk about them, your name will soon be trampled underfoot.
12. Anything awkward you do
Do you gasp in your sleep? She had already told someone about it. Did your pants rip when you bent over to pick up something? She had already told someone about it. Have you littered the toilet with something she'd better not see? She had already told someone about it. Have you drunk too much and vomited around? She has already told about it.
If you have done something stupid that you would rather forget, then probably her friends have already heard this story and may even have laughed at you. In her defense, if she did something ridiculous in front of you, would you tell someone and hope she never finds out?
11. Any fantasies you tell her
Guys talk about sex. Naturally, but not like women. We tell our buddies how lucky we were last night and how gorgeous she looks naked. But we don't go into the topic that deeply. Illustrative example: If you tell her how you always wanted to dress your woman in Princess Leia's slave costume, she will not hide this fact.
The more crazy your fantasies are, the more likely her friends will find out all about it. So if you want to keep your personal preferences private, discuss it with her as tactfully as possible, and still keep in mind that she may still tell you about it. Also take a look at the article 12 Sexual Fantasies of Girls You Didn't Even Know About.
10. Your personal hygiene
When you are in a relationship with someone, it is good practice to keep an eye on yourself all the time. So take a shower and use goodbye deodorant if you don't want to be seen as that smelling guy with her friends.
Most importantly, if you allow for even the smallest chance of intimacy, be sure to wash your crotch recently, as no one wants to mess with smelly genitals. If you are so clueless that you don't do this goodbye, you are at great risk.
9. Beautiful gestures
Your girlfriend has had difficulties at work, and she constantly shares this with you. You think that she wants something and send a bouquet of flowers with a note that you want her to smile. She then calls to express her gratitude and, surprise, her next step is to tell all her friends what you did for her.
It doesn't matter if she puts a photo in contact with a description, or just calls her friends, the result will be the same. She will enjoy every second of bragging in front of her friends about the cute thing you did for her, no matter how it was expressed.
8. Description of your genitals
We know what you are thinking. Most likely, you have hidden your genitals from almost everyone all your life, and you want the details to not be leaked out. Be that as it may, it seems as if women feel the need to describe "bait and tackle»To each other in all the details, even what we cannot imagine.
On the other hand, we must confess that some of our friends also described some elements of the female body, so we cannot judge anyone.
7. How do you behave with the waiter / waitress
Is there anyone here who doesn't like to chill out and go to expensive restaurants for dinner from time to time? We can't even imagine that there are such, but when it comes to going out with a girl, be careful. How you behave towards the service staff will be the main topic of conversation.
And this is very important. Did you behave rudely towards them for no reason? This will be the main blow that you will have to go through. Were you too polite? If you weren’t fawning at them, but weren’t rude either, your mannerisms will be a topic of discussion.
6. When you stand up for them
Of all the items on this list, this can easily go awry. If a girl tells you that someone said something unpleasant about her, and you go and hit him in the face, then, most likely, you put her in an awkward position, and she will not appreciate it.If you’re in a bar or club and some fool says something and you grapple with him instead of walking away, you can easily provoke a dangerous situation.
If you think that she is so defenseless that you constantly have to intercede for her, she may feel insulted and humiliated. Women can stand up for themselves and in most cases do not need a knight in shining armor rushing to help, but when you prove that you are ready to protect her, it means a lot.
Don't let your friends and family treat her badly, but don't go overboard and she will think you are more worried about her feelings than anything else. It doesn't matter how you behave: like the last idiot, making everything worse, or coming to her aid when she needs it the most, she will tell people about it anyway.
5. Anything rude that you said about them
Let's be honest, we guys often say something without thinking. Probably because we are used to talking to friends who do not take our comments seriously and forget about them very quickly. However, when we talk to girls, thoughtlessly spoken words can sink into them like a dagger, although we did not mean anything bad.
Also, sometimes, when we are hotly arguing about something with the other half, in a rage we can break out on her. It doesn't matter how much we offended her, the fact remains: it will very quickly scatter among her acquaintances.
4. What you argue about
We've already touched on the idea that how we argue with partners can very easily become a topic of discussion when we are not around. But that's not the only thing they are talking about. Most likely, the girls will discuss what we are arguing about. Maybe you had a big fight because she caught you cheating, she will tell it.
On the other hand, if you constantly swear because you never clean the razor after shaving, then that too may come up in the future. While the seriousness of your actions will undoubtedly speed up the phone call after you leave, even what you consider to be frivolous can still be dealt with in minute detail.
3. How attractive you are
This is another topic of discussion that is most likely to arise at the beginning of a relationship. When we first meet a future girl, she probably tells the whole truth about how we look: both from the most unbiased, superficial point of view, and her own opinion. This means that the way we present ourselves can make a huge difference in how a potential girlfriend sees and describes you. Do you look casual, but charming, interesting and have a lot of enthusiasm for life?
You might assume that you will be described as scary to her friends, but that just as easily may not be critical. You might think that the way your girlfriend describes you will stay the same, unless you, well, change a lot, but that can change too. For example, proving yourself in bed can permanently change her attitude towards your attractiveness and what she tells people.
2. How good are you in bed
It can be a gift or a curse, but in most cases sex will be discussed in your absence. If you come very quickly, roll over and fall asleep, you will be discussed. If sex is good, but not perfect, or routine, but she still feels satisfaction, then it will pop up. Do you own some unique technique that she has never seen before? Rest assured this will be discussed.
1. How well you treat them
In summary, our first point was clear from the start. Although guys have to come to terms with the fact that women say a lot more about us than we do about them. Some things are common. When we discuss girls, the main theme is likely to be how good they are for us and how we feel towards them. It's just silly to think that they are not talking about the same thing.
Everyone associates people in their lives with the emotions they experience being around. So if you behave well towards a girl, then she will think great about you and tell people this. It's really very simple ... Until it comes to something on this list.
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