We all like to think that we are smart enough. In most cases it is. But sometimes we do not notice how our actions contradict our reason, but others notice it perfectly.
Whenever you are in a situation where how others perceive you is important, whether at work or school, you need to know how to present yourself. You will always be judged on various parameters, from clothes and behavior to how and what you say. This estimate will either be in your favor or not.
Keep this in mind the next time you need to interact with someone outside of your comfort zone. Also take a look at Article 23 Body Language Tricks That Will Make You Attractive.
Inappropriate appearance
How you present yourself to the world determines the attitude of strangers towards you. If you watch your clothes and dress well, you are perceived as a respectable person. If you constantly wear sweatpants and a T-shirt, then no one will consider it necessary to waste time on you.
If there is a specific dress code at work, be sure to adhere to it. Even such a trifle as the absence of a tie will give colleagues a reason to think that, in your opinion, the rules do not apply to you, or in principle you do not understand why they are needed. If one day you decide to neglect a little thing about clothes, do not be surprised if colleagues and your boss do not even want to listen to you.
Phrases out of place
Who Watched the Comedy TV Series "Big renovation"where Tim's neighbor Wilson gives him all sorts of wise advice, perhaps he remembers the episode where Wilson advises Tim to dilute the conversation with buzzwords whenever he wants to appear smarter. But it's one thing when we laugh at how ridiculous a fictional character does it. In real life, trying to flash with a buzzword sounds pathetic, not witty.
If you teach in literacy courses and now and then insert newfangled expressions into your speech, students are unlikely to take you seriously. Don't use loud words just because you've heard them in a similar situation. If you are having trouble explaining something without slang, give it up. (Author's note: unfortunately, the story with the teacher is real. Well, be that way)
Withdrawal into oneself
Each of us can sometimes "to hang"and stare into the void in front of you, however, then you have to rehabilitate yourself in front of the interlocutor and, with a clever look, make it clear that we all listened attentively.
Then we start making excuses, saying that we thought when in fact we simply could not focus on something in particular at that moment. There may be many reasons why this happens, only people may get the impression that we do not understand what they are talking about or that we simply do not care.
If you can't maintain eye contact with the other person and your body language communicating that you are listening to him, he will most likely think that you are immersed in your own thoughts and have no idea what he is talking about. Or he will conclude that all your attention is so focused on his words that sometimes you forget to even nod in agreement. In any case, an empty, absent gaze will not put you in a favorable light.
Talkativeness
We all know the saying: "My tongue is my enemy". Of course, if you are not from the top of the army, then you are unlikely to have information that can affect the issue of national security. But the inability to keep your mouth shut will give others reason to think that you are not distinguished by intelligence and ingenuity.
It should always be remembered that "silence is gold". The ability to speak succinctly will show that your thoughts are ordered, you are able to convey them correctly, speak to the point and do not go into unnecessary explanations when possible.
On the other hand, when you crackle incessantly, without attaching special importance to words, you may get the impression that you just like to listen to your own voice, or you speak simply in order to speak, and let others look for the meaning. You are completely responsible for what you say, so think carefully before you say something. "blurt out".
Silence
Verbal stinginess will also cause condemnation. Some of us do not always strive to maintain a conversation, which makes us rude or uninteresting interlocutors in the eyes of others. But we know that our silence, modesty, sometimes even introversion is not a sign of a lack of intelligence. It's just that sometimes people around you do not understand this. You might be interested in Article 10 Misconceptions About Introverts.
Therefore, even the most taciturn is useful from time to time to force themselves to speak. Remember: You don't need to say a lot, the main thing is that the interlocutor understands that you are listening to him and have a sound opinion on the issue.
The habit of judging others
This article focuses on the fact that people tend to judge you (possibly unfairly) by some one-time action of yours. They don't get into thinking about who you really are. This is wrong, but inevitable.
But if you are judged on the basis of only first impressions, this does not mean that you should do the same. In general, it is much better to refuse to judge anyone for anything. None of us have any idea what it is like to live someone else's life. When you judge another, it seems to you that he had to experience everything in life that you have. You think that he should live by your standards, and moreover, you definitely need to tell him how he should live.
When you condemn others, it says that you live in a world where only your correct opinion exists, and you never think about the fact that on earth with a population of 7 billion people, there are as many different opinions.
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