Making friends in adulthood is not as easy as it was as a child. You need to work on relationships in order to be able to maintain friendship and carry it through the years.
If you don't have many friends, it is important to identify possible reasons for this. Also, take a look at the Top 10 Traits of a Best Friend.
1. You complain a lot
If you are constantly complaining about your job, lack of money or an unfair life, no one wants to spend time with you, because complaints quickly get bored. Try to change your attitude towards life, think more positively, and instead of talking about your problems, find more interesting topics to discuss.
2. You forget about your friends when you have a soul mate
If every time you start dating someone, you forget about your friends, then most likely they will not sit back and wait for you to deign to come to them crying in your vest because of the next breakup. Instead, they will move forward without you. It is important to make time for both close friends and loved ones.
3. You are selfish
Whether you agree with this or not, the fact remains: egoists have no friends. Friendship implies that you not only take, but also give something, even when you think you have nothing to give. If you’re doing everything for yourself, it’s unlikely that your friends will put up with it.
4. You are not interested in what is happening to your friends.
If you are not interested in the lives of your friends, then most likely they will stop communicating with you altogether. It's important to show that you care about what happens to your friends, otherwise they may find disinterest as offensive.
5. You fan the drama out of nothing
If you are perceived as a constant instigator of problems, it is likely that people will avoid communicating with you. If you blame others for everything, try to piss them off on purpose, do not know how to keep secrets, then it will be difficult for you to convince people that you can be friends.
6. You always keep score
Real friends don't have to keep score. If you take turns calling each other, trying to level positions by deciding who will call whom first to dinner, then it is likely that you will soon lose friends. Instead of striving for “justice”In a relationship, be prepared to give something back to your friend.
7. You are envious
If you are jealous that a friend bought a new car, got a promotion, or got a soul mate, then this can lead to a number of problems. It is important to be happy for your friends and celebrate every victory. Even if you try to hide envy, sooner or later your friend will still find out about it.
8. You are asking too much of your friends.
If you think that friends should meet your needs, be in touch 24 hours a day, then you are wrong. Sometimes they will hurt, disappoint, but this does not mean that they are bad people and it is not worth making friends with them anymore. Sometimes you need to forgive people, even if they hurt your feelings.
9. You gossip
If you constantly spread rumors, people will think that you are talking about them as well. Don't gossip or speak negatively about the people around you. Instead, prove that you can be trusted and that you respect everyone's privacy.
10. You try to be the most important
If you command your friends, put forward your demands, it is likely that no one wants to communicate with you. It's okay to be assertive, but make sure you don't cross the line between assertiveness and aggressiveness. Respect the rights of others and work to develop healthy friendships.
11. You are sitting in one place
A possible reason why you have few friends may not be a specific character flaw, but the fact that you did not have the opportunity to meet an interesting person whose company you could enjoy.
If so, try meeting people with similar interests and interests, visit new places, and be prepared to strike up a conversation with a stranger who may be your best friend for the rest of your life.
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