Hey, and welcome to a lesson on what you weren't taught in the sex edition. Today's topic: Peginga. Most often, the term "pegging" is used to refer to a hetero, cisgender woman who uses a strap-on to penetrate a hetero, cisgender man. But unfortunately, because anal sex has historically been associated with "gay behavior," many heterosexuals don't consider pegging.
This, my friends, is a parody, because the prostate is full of pleasure for your male friends - this is called the P-point. And, hello, news: Where and how you enjoy yourself doesn't define your sexuality. Period.
What's more, it can be incredibly hot for those who wear the strap to play around with the power dynamics. Don't believe me? Take it from these six women who share their personal experiences with Pegging. Note that they could hardly say anything bad about it.
Have you tried pegging with a partner or in casual sex?
- "I tried having sex with a regular partner after we were together for about three years." —Sophie, 25
- "Yes, with my regular partner." —Taylor, 55
- “Only with regular partners who were already very passionate about it. I wouldn't mind doing it casually, but both of my partners waited until we got really close to pick it up out of embarrassment or embarrassment." – Anna *, 28 years old
- “I only did it once. It was with a regular partner – we dated for six months.” —Bea*, 22
- “I tried to fuck with my husband. He is definitely a serious partner. I would also be willing to try this in a casual relationship. We are poly and sometimes we play with others." – Ekaterina *, 35 years old
- "I strapon my regular partner - my 11-year-old husband." —Dian*, 38
What tools or toys did you use?
- “We started by using a thin dildo to test the sensations and see if he wanted to do it again. We had tried prostate toys and butt plugs before, but he wasn't sure if the longer length was comfortable. We also found it important to have a strong connection because it makes pushing and moving much easier and less uncomfortable.” —Sophie, 25
- "I used a traditional harness with a dildo." —Taylor, 55
- “I used the strap with both partners I strapon and enough lube to drown the horse. Both straps were softer silicone models, but one had a vibe that was also a pleasure for the wearer.” – Anna, 28 years old
- "Just a really slick simple dildo." – Bea, 22
- “I used harnesses, which I really like because the size range is really indulgent. Fits well on my large hips. We used a thin silicone dildo and, of course, a lot of water-based lube.” – Ekaterina, 35 years old.
- “It is important that the person being penetrated is warmed up, so we started with me using my fingers. Gloves are great because they make cleaning easier and protect my partner from my nails. When it was ready, we switched to using a small butt plug to keep warming it up. Then I put on a strap, which I found very comfortable, and connected it to the dildo. Yes, and lubricants -lot lubricants. – Diana, 38 years old.
And whose idea was it - yours or theirs? What prompted you to try?
- “We experimented with me with anal play and he was curious if it would help him too. When he got used to the sensations and ideas about things, we decided to try the strapon. It was probably more my idea than his, but I think it was also an intriguing idea to turn our current couple dynamic on its head.” —Sophie, 25
- “It was his idea as I told him I had never done this before. It was my fantasy to see if I could do it, if I could do it a little bit (I did), and if I liked it (I did)."
—Taylor, 55 - “It was my partner's idea for the first time. He had done it before, he liked it, and when we became regulars, he asked me to try it. The second partner had to give a little hint on my part.” – Anna, 28 years old
- "His. One day I asked him what he wanted to do. He told me he wanted to 'go a little crazy' and then offered me to penetrate him with a dildo." – Bea, 22
- “I don't even know whose idea it was. We've both had butt plugs during intercourse and he's not squeamish about ass play. It doesn't have the sexy gaps that some guys seem to have, which I appreciate. I think it was this evening that I asked him if he would like to try and he said yes, especially since we had just bought a pendant.” – Ekaterina, 35 years old.
- “It was an idea that we both mentioned at different times, so I think it was mutual. I was curious what it would be like to be the one doing the penetration and he was curious what it would be like.” – Diane, 38
What did you do to prepare?
- “Plenty of lubrication and douching beforehand was key and also a requirement of our times. The dildo we started with was very thin and we had used wider plugs before so size wasn't an issue. He was more excited about the idea of me being pushed, so I just tried to move slowly and let him control the pace until he was comfortable with me setting the pace.” —Sophie, 25
- “I was so unprepared. He brought me a dildo as a surprise so I didn't have time to mentally prepare. It, on the other hand, took about two weeks to prepare, as it had not been penetrated for more than two years.” —Taylor, 55
- “I researched everything there is to know about anal. I was determined to go into the situation really prepared. Then I went and bought, like, a gallon of lube and a belt that fit. But seriously: lube.” – Anna, 28 years old
- “Just lube. It was a very sleek little dildo. It was about the size of two tampons together, maybe even one. He wasn't that big." – Bea, 22
- “Don't rush! Regular foreplay, lots of stimulation, fingering to relax. It was important that he was aroused beforehand.” – Ekaterina, 35 years old.
- “Lots of warm-ups before actually strap-on him. Before the game, he showered and used the toilet, which I think helped him feel more comfortable.” – Diana, 38 years old.
Were there any problems when you started?
- “We made sure we both talked about how things were going for each of us, so we didn't have any issues. The day after we first tried the strap-on, he was a bit sore as his body was not used to this type of stimulation.
—Sophie, 25 - "Not. Have plenty of good lube on hand and NEVER use desensitizing lube. The only place you want to know if there is pain is in the anus, not after the fact.”
—Taylor, 55 - "Height difference? Being a foot shorter than who you're trying to pull in is a little more difficult than when those dimensions are reversed. Solution: bend them over something.” – Anna, 28 years old
- "No, absolutely not. I don't even know if we did everything right or something like that. It was super spontaneous.” – Bea, 22
- “It was hard to find a good angle! It was difficult to properly align the hips. As a result, we tried several different positions. Because the dildo is not my body, I couldn't feel what I was doing without my arm underneath. I couldn't tell if I was really penetrating or just bumping awkwardly near his ass." – Ekaterina, 35 years old.
- “We had to try different poses because there is a pretty big height difference between us, so it was just a matter of figuring out what worked best. We found that he was lying on his side with his knees bent and I was on my knees pressing the front of my thighs against the back of his and it worked very well. In this position, the height difference wasn't an issue and I liked that we could still look at each other." – Diana, 38 years old.
What do you like most about pegging?
- “We both felt it was a great bonding experience and took our physical relationship to the next level. It meant I took on more control and he had to let me, which meant I was given more trust.” —Sophie, 25
- “He trusted me to do it with him. He loved to obey me and I liked the way he obeyed me.” —Taylor, 55
- “Pegging is great because it puts you in a position that you're not used to being a woman. There are aspects of dominance, power, intimacy and power that I don't think we can experience in the same wordless way when it comes to vanilla sex." – Anna, 28 years old
- “It was nice to have control. And it was really interesting to see how much he liked it. It kinda freaked me out a little, likeWow, he really likes it" . Interestingly, we never did it again.” – Bea, 22
- “I'm always happy to try something new. I enjoyed giving him the opportunity to try what he wanted to try and have fun playing with the sex toys.”
– Ekaterina, 35 years old. - “Every time I did what he liked, I felt all his muscles clench around me. It was really intimate and sexy. My favorite part of it was just watching him have fun, especially because I found it very cool that he is so comfortable with his body despite all the negativity and shame around heterosexuals enjoying anal stimulation.” – Diana, 38 years old.
What was it like to play the part of the penetrator?
- “It was pretty intimidating at first, especially because anal play really means you have to be more careful and careful not to hurt your partner. It turns out that when it comes to the injection, it takes a bit of technique! The next day, my hips and abdominal muscles were very sore! But in general I liked it. Being a penetrator was a completely different experience and giving my partner the same pleasure was also a heartfelt pleasure.” —Sophie, 25
- “Honestly, I was very comfortable in this role. I'm more dominant and being able to express it that way was my dream." —Taylor, 55
- “Pretty cool. Having a guy under your feet, gasping and moaning, is amazing. This is also a very energetic move. You are constantly moving. You also have complete control over how your partner feels, and that's fun." – Anna, 28 years old
- "I like. It was different. I was in complete control of the situation, and he was lying on his stomach, so he did not look into my eyes. I found it exhilarating, not only in conventional sex, but in being in charge of other people's pleasures." – Bea, 22
- “Most of the technical issues had to be resolved: how to get the right angle, how to move, how to control speed and depth. Personally, I was
It's fun to play the part of a penetrator and I wouldn't mind doing it again.” – Katherine, 35 - “Fun and more inspiring than I expected. I really enjoyed the role reversal and finding new ways to make my partner feel good.” – Diana, 38 years old.
Is a strap-on a regular part of your sex life now?
- “Pegging now appears in the bedroom almost regularly. It takes a fair amount of preparation, which is why we tend to put it off until we have a home to ourselves and enough time to really enjoy it.” —Sophie, 25
- "Unfortunately no. Now we live in different states, and I don't see him that often. Plus a lot more work! Bless those men who do all this work in bed.” —Taylor, 55
- "Not. Now I have another partner who doesn't like it." – Anna, 28 years old
- "Not. We had really good sex no matter what, so that was the only thing we did and that was great too. But I think I will do it again. Looking back, I would have prepared a little more and knew what to do, especially with cleaning and stuff.” – Bea, 22
- "Unfortunately no. We only did it once. Not because it wasn't fun, but simply because the equipment and training are there, and that's not something he's always set for." – Ekaterina, 35 years old.
- "Yes and no - we go through phases of what we're both wired for, so sometimes it's more of a part of our daily sex life than others." – Diana, 38 years old.
What advice would you give to others who might want to try Pegging?
- “The most important thing is communication. It's not the end of the world if things don't go as planned; he may decide that it is not for him. The main thing is that you both talk about what works for you and what doesn't."
—Sophie, 25 - “Do it with someone you trust—someone you really want to please sexually, as it will be more satisfying for both of you. Don't do it if you don't want to, no matter how many times they ask. Consent is very sexy, and consent must be on both sides! Be rested, hydrated, and pay attention to your lover's movements and sounds so you don't accidentally injure him." —Taylor, 55
- “I already said it, but grease, grease, grease, grease, grease. Buttocks are not lubricated on their own at all. Insufficient lubrication leads to discomfort and permanent injury. Strap-on spring with vibration. Worth it. If your partner has never had anal sex / hasn't had it in a while, take your time. It might hurt a little. – Anna, 28 years old
- "I think the first thing to do is play some ass without penetration." – Bea, 22
- “Go ahead. Don't get hung up on what this means for your gender or sexual identity. This is an area filled with nerve endings. Stimulate fun. Read on, practice with your fingers first, and be ready to try.” – Ekaterina, 35 years old.
- “Communicate with each other – both before and during. Move slowly, make sure your partner is warmed up, and use plenty of lube before trying more fingers or a bigger toy.” – Diana, 38 years old.
