Not all of us were born orators or very outgoing people. If you are a shy person, let the world know that this is not because you lack ideas, social skills, or interests. Let your voice be heard and let your shyness be overcome. The following points provide a methodology for getting rid of shyness.
10. Find out the reason for your tendency to be shy.
Find out why you are shy or about what and try to get rid of those reasons. Shyness can be attributed to many reasons, from low self-esteem, difficulty accepting compliments given to you, or being labeled as a timid person who has been hung on you.
You should keep in mind that all of the above factors are determined by your mind and therefore can be resolved in the same way after a little practice. Don't let your self-esteem drop, but know your worth. Make it a rule not to criticize yourself when someone praises you.
So the next time someone compliments you, say “thank you” with a warm smile. And if the reason for shyness is the label of shy girl / boy, then we all throw off labels over time, right?
9. Find out what situations cause shyness.
Understanding what triggers shyness is just as important as figuring out why you tend to be shy. These reasons could be meeting a new person, attending a party, or performing on stage. Sit down and make a list of all the factors that cause shyness to surface and challenge yourself to beat it.
Moscow was not built right away, so relax, you don't need to become self-confident overnight. Work your way up gradually and deal with one reason at a time, from easy to hard. You could make the process more interesting by rewarding yourself with something every time you dealt with one of the reasons. There is hardly anyone who does not like awards and thanks?
8. Switch attention
One of the main reasons why you feel shy when talking is because all the lucid and random thoughts are collecting in your head. Starting from how badly you started the conversation, how poorly you support it, and what others will think of you.
Stop controlling yourself and instead focus on the conversation or a specific trait of your interlocutor that you like about it.
7. Schedule some conversations with your friends
You can ask friends to help you plan discussions on any topic. Since friends are your comfort zone, it would be easier for you to be with them. As soon as you become successful and there is confidence, include new acquaintances in the disputes and gradually practice. Watching talk shows and listening to debates can also inspire you.
6. Tricks of body position
It is quite possible to play a joke with the mind. There are certain ways in which you can trick your mind into thinking that you are calm, confident, and stress-free, so that it would stop pulling you down with its old, familiar anxiety.
Maintain the correct posture. Stand up straight with your head high, walk with your shoulders back and your arms open. These little tricks will fool your brain into thinking you are calm and confident. In this way? this will reduce stress and make communication easier.
5. Conversational practice
Look in the mirror and talk to yourself or read a poem. This is quite effective as you get used to seeing that you are speaking confidently and this confidence can be reflected externally. Also, if you tend to stutter or swallow sentences halfway through your shyness, reduce it by sitting down and talking to yourself slowly and clearly.
A few activities, and you are sure to gain self-confidence that you can demonstrate in society.
4. Don't compare yourself to others.
This universal truth for many things, both in life and in relationships, also applies here. Know that we are all different and unique. If your friend A is a good speaker and B is a good athlete, you will have your good qualities as well.
This is not a competition, and all you are trying to do is overcome your shyness and please yourself with the communication. Don't compare yourself and remember that this is not a race. Believe in yourself and focus on achieving your goal.
3. Self-determination
While you are in the process of overcoming your shyness, try to identify yourself, look within and identify your strengths. Allow yourself time for introspection and realize how good you are.
These efforts will boost your confidence. After all, when you know how good you are at something, you would know how to flaunt it. Get to know yourself and reveal your personality.
2. Start a conversation
After all of the above - now let's take a step to the next step. Now you know what your fears are, you have eradicated them and you have confidence in yourself. Now let it pay off. Start with a small chat with someone, say at a party or social event. Keep it short as this is your first step.
Introduce yourself and ask about the interlocutor, and after a short conversation, say goodbye. This is just the beginning, and you don't need to talk about tectonic plate movements or which planet is inhabited near the Earth. Plus, reward yourself for your success and walk away with a promise to do more and better next time.
1. Smile and do not look away
Now that we've gotten into some small conversations, let's improve this art. Don't look down, don't look away, look straight into your eyes. This ancient mantra of calculating your confidence level also encourages the other person to talk. In addition, do not look like a zombie, just look your interlocutor in the eye with a smile. Have a welcoming and pleasant smile throughout the short conversation.
Love yourself for every little accomplishment and be the greatest mentor and motivator. Keep a record of your little accomplishments, and the next time you feel uncomfortable, take a look at them and say to yourself, "Hey, I've come this far."
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