Finding the right match for yourself is not an easy task. Much depends on what is for you "perfect couple". Are these two extraordinarily similar people, whose similarities and interests create a romantic idyll in a relationship? Or is it a unity of dissimilar, complementary and respecting each other?
An introvert and an extrovert, according to a common misconception, have nothing in common and, of course, will not make a strong pair. Take, for example, a programmer and a disc jockey (suppose the programmer is an introvert and the disc jockey is an extrovert). The first involuntary reaction to the statement that the two are compatible as a couple is “CAN NOT BE!“But you will be very surprised to learn that it is often the differences that draw them together so strongly.
Let's find out why (and how) an introvert and an extrovert are perfect for each other. There are three reasons for this. You might also be interested in Article 10 Misconceptions About Introverts.
1. They give each other unknown sensations
It's true. The attention of extroverts is almost always riveted to external factors, to what can be seen. They love to receive strong emotions from their environment, draw energy from the outside and rarely withdraw into themselves. They live according to the "outside-inside" principle, that is, they study the possibilities that the outside world gives and choose what they want for themselves.
Introverts, on the other hand, “draw from the inside". They love to penetrate into the essence of what they saw and live as if "from inside to outside”, That is, they try to bring into the external world the truth that they have learned within themselves.
If these two agree to complement and nourish each other's strengths, then together, as a couple, they "can move mountains". While the introvert is busy with the internal issues of the common cause, the extrovert establishes external relationships, negotiates, gives a beautiful design. Both are important! It's like a cake covered in frosting, where the cake is an introvert and the frosting is an extrovert. The cake looks boring without the icing, but the icing is useless without the cake.
More importantly, these two are capable of bringing unique experiences to each other's lives! The extrovert will share “external experience», Such as searching for adventure, joint trips to events, friendly gatherings. An introvert, on the other hand, is able to initiate a partner into the secrets of meditation, romantic dates, and strong intimate hugs. Everyone wins!
2. They can learn a lot from each other.
Introverts draw strength from reflection and communication with the inner self. They love one-on-one conversations for depth and meaning. Extroverts are energized by the crowd and are usually the life of the party. They do not think too much about their words and deeds, go with the flow and enjoy communication with everyone who floats by. They love spontaneity and fun.
An introvert is able to induce an extrovert not to waste energy and more often look into his soul, and an extrovert can pull an introvert out of their comfort zone and give the joy of communicating with new people. By helping each other move beyond their usual boundaries, they can become best friends, grow personally, and as a couple. What else can you dream of?
3. They complement each other
Introverts learn the secrets of life through high observation. Introverts are deeply rooted and see things unadorned. Extroverts are more sociable, they gain an understanding of the world through interaction with other people. They like to be in the public eye, show off their pride and loudly declare themselves to the world, showing everyone their achievements.
The introvert is able to help the extrovert see new opportunities and, thanks to such qualities as observation and discernment, open the eyes and mind of the extrovert to the previously unknown. On the other hand, an extrovert can connect an introvert with new people and provide an opportunity to demonstrate their achievements to others. An extrovert can easily win an introvert's heart by nudging him (or her) into the center of attention with a warm, friendly hand.
Honesty and dialogue are fundamental to a happy relationship between an extrovert and an introvert. If they are able to accept each other's strengths and weaknesses, fill in the gaps in relationships and be sincere in everything, together they "reckless". Their needs and expectations are very different, but if you are lucky enough to find each other and keep the relationship clean, an extrovert and an introvert can make a great couple!
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